I spent most of the day at Mom and Dad’s house yesterday with Thomas as he went about taking possession of the China cabinet that actually held China. I was overwhelmed by a sense of sadness as we slowly take down possessions, keepsakes and treasures that maybe only Mom or Dad knew the value. It is now a home in transition. Furniture gone, tables gathered together, rooms being emptied slowly, knick knacks accumulating where the couch, then Dad’s hospital bed, and then a couch again had been.

2013-11-28 15.38.42It’s a home Dad built, and Mom decorated; mostly from their Sears charge card.

So many memories, so many feelings running through my mind. Family Christmas gatherings, game nights, Mom’s Friday Makah Days kickoff luncheon.

By the phone in the dining room hangs a 1987 calendar. It’s not only a reminder that land lines are a thing of the past, but also my childhood home will become a memory of the past.

Dad, Lynn & MomMy sister Lynn had been gone 11 years earlier this month. Three years later Dad died. Four years ago today, Mom died in Bremerton. Bremerton once a memory of sadness, now the city where my son, his wife and their kids now call home. A change for the better as I now look forward to visiting them in Bremerton.

Change is inevitable. It is no different for the house I lived in twice. Once in my childhood and once with my wife when we moved in to help care for Mom. As it goes through transition, I once again look forward to game nights and family Christmas gatherings that will be spent in the new home. It will be full of the love and respect taught to us by Mom and Dad; Gramsy and Grandpa gone to us for now but always to be remembered.

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Baccalaureate 2017



I spent one of the best days of my life here. 35 years ago I married Robin Olson at this alter.

What is Baccalaureate?
Dictionary.com defines it as
2. a religious service held at an educational institution, usually on the Sunday before commencement day.

Today the churches of our community celebrate your accomplishments. We get to talk to you about God. In the balance of state / church activities; the school gets 12-13 years of required attendance, the Neah Bay Churches get one voluntary service.

Many of you will ask:

Why God?


He saved us
“For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.” (John 3:17, NIV)
His Grace and Mercy are Boundless
Micah 7:13 (NIV) says “You delight in showing mercy,”


He Makes All Things New

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!
(NIV: 2 Corinthians 5:17)

He’s Always With Us
Psalm 46:1King James Version (KJV)
46 God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.

He cares about you




The more you talk to Him, the more you realize you have learned how to pray.

Benjamin Franklin once said, “In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.”
But, Because death takes no holiday

Some will ask:

Why, God?

To those who have lost a child, parent, sibling, or friend there aren’t any words that wouldn’t seem cheap or empty when they ask, why? All you can do is pray, be there, take comfort in giving comfort. You pray, sit with them sometimes in silence, sometimes speaking, to let them know that they are not alone in their suffering and grief. But, when faced with the question why, my response is

I don’t know.


In response to this why question from OP-ED COLUMNIST Maureen Dowd of the New York Times

Father Kevin O’Neil associate professor of moral theology at the Washington Theological Union wrote,

” I remember visiting a dear friend hours before her death and reminding her that death is not the end, that we believe in the Resurrection. I asked her, “Are you there yet?” She replied, “I go back and forth.” There was nothing I wanted more than to bring out a bag of proof and say, “See? You can be absolutely confident now.” But there is no absolute bag of proof. I just stayed with her. A life of faith is often lived “back and forth” ”by believers and those who minister to them.

A life of faith, if you don’t have it yet, it’s not too late. Ask questions, seek answers, open the book you will be given today and study it. It can be the most important book you will ever read. One key to Christianity is,
It’s YOUR choice.
Many sitting here today will be willing to help you explore what faith is. I am. Though I don’t have all the answers, I have my faith.


— C. S. Lewis said: “Christianity, if false, is of no importance, and if true, of infinite importance. The only thing it cannot be is moderately important.”


The next step in life are yours to take.

Anne Frank said, “Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.” —

Some will be living off the reservation for the first time, paying bills for the first time.

Judith Martin made this observation, “The invention of the teenager was a mistake. Once you identify a period of life in which people get to stay out late but don’t have to pay taxes — naturally, no one wants to live any other way.”

In this age of social media, when connections to family and friends no matter where they are just a text a way, there still may be days when you feel down and lonely
“If you think nobody cares if you’re alive, try missing a couple of payments.”

It used to be only death and taxes were inevitable. Now, of course, there’s shipping and handling, too.


What will you do with your life?


Follow your passion, stay true to yourself, never follow someone else’s path unless you’re in the woods and you’re lost and you see a path then by all means you should follow that.


Think of your daily activities:

Ralph Waldo Emerson once asked what we would do if the stars only came out once every thousand years. No one would sleep that night, of course… We would be ecstatic, delirious, made rapturous by the glory of God. Instead the stars come out every night, and we watch television.
– PAUL Hawken

Stand outside this evening. Look at the stars. Know that you are special and loved by the One who created them.



I once saw a post on social media that said, I don’t know how people can cruise around Neah Bay all day, only thing that changes there is new dogs running around the street.
It made me think;

I moved to Neah Bay in 1967, I was ten. Yes, I’m 60 now, and I had to write all this down before I forgot… There were no HUD houses, because there was no Housing Authority; imagesmeaning No Diaht housing or East Nursery Housing. The 200 line was where you took your garbage to the old garbage dump. There was no Wellness Center. Now there’s two housing developments there; and Sail River Heights has been added in the last few years. When we lived up on the 200 line, we found out there really was a downtown Neah Bay.
There was no Marina or Mini Mart; and Washburn’s and the Post Office were in the vacant lot across the street from the mini mart.images (3)

There were “resorts” leased to non members. They pulled their floats at the end of tourist season, leaving their stinking floats by the road side, for residents to enjoy all winter and early spring, but taking the bulk of the income from the summer fisheries with them.

There was a movie theatre! They showed second run and third run movies, but it was a theatre! They had expensive popcorn, candy and pop like any theater you go to today. A theatre was needed since the only TV stations were channel 12, KVOS out of Bellingham, then a CBS affiliate, Channel 2, CBUT and Channel 6 CHEK TV out of Canada. This may explain why families were bigger back then.

There were two fish buying docks; Bay Fish and the Co-op. c57abdaf8681f8c549f793dc503669fe-250x159There was Mel’s Resort on a barge where the second boat launch is next to the Mini mart.

Cape Flattery Lodge was located where Theron’s trailer is, on the next street back was an old abandoned church.
There was no Woodland Avenue, just backstreet and it turned left at what now is Portage street, and joined front street, (the street names were so original) or what we now call Bayview Avenue. There was very little a block south of Bayview, the area that is now Butler’s Motel to behind the Post Office.

The tech center started as a business center; then was a bingo hall; until head start moved in; and then an alternative school before it became the tech center.
There was the Thunderbird Motel and restaurant. The motel was built on pilings and jutted over the water where Big Salmon is now. The Cafe was across the street in the Community Gym parking lot. Oh, and there was no Makah Community Gym, or McGym as I affectionately like to call it. The silver salmon resort stood next to Debbie and Kirks current lot, The Tyee was the most recent old “resort” torn down. Farwest Resort was across the street from Mel’s resort; sitting right next to Tryon’s 76 Gas station. A Chevron gas station sat next to where Jube’s home is now. The mini mart was previously the site for a Chevron bulk fuel station. There were three huge metal fuel containers the size of the tank once sitting in front of the fishermen’s coop.

Elvrum’s motel sat in the vacant lot in front of where the Post Office now sits. Elvrums cafe was across the street where the Warmhouse is now. images (2)Morton’s resort is where the Cape is now. There was no Hobuck cabins and campgrounds.

There was no MCRC; no Senior Citizen Center; no Senior Apartments; there were no rentals behind where Washburn’s is now or at the end of the block before you turn left on Fort to go to the school.

The old elementary school wasn’t replaced yet, the new elementary was built in the early 80’s. The old high school was just the multipurpose room, the four classrooms around it, and five classrooms that started where the art room is now and extended west. The hallways were all outside.

The old elementary also housed a band room that was upstairs and located over the school’s shop and also housed the gym, with a floor smaller than what was the Center gym (the Center Gym was located where Public Safety now sits); the bleachers were solid wood, and steep. The backboards were wooden, fan shaped. You had to walk down to the locker / shower room. The visitors’ locker rooms were located underneath the bleachers, where you could only stand up on the outer edge because the ceiling slanted with the bleachers. I was asked to take stats there for Mr. Miller, then the Basketball coach and my sixth grade teacher, only when he handed me a clipboard, I had to ask what a rebound and an assist were. My freshman year we played Joyce 5 times. Joyce was not Crescent back then. There was a stage lining the south side of the gym. We used to put on full scale Broadway musicals there. I sang in some of them, but for some reason my character always died or was already dead. I was Lt. Cable in South Pacific, who died, Dracula, who got a stake through the heart, and the ghost of Romeo. There was Bye Bye Birdie, starring Maria Pascua, Babes in Arms, and Lil Abner.

The new high school gym opened with the last game of the 1971-1972 season. The parking lot was still unpaved. The floor in the entryway was designed to capture dirt; and it did a great job for that first game. I played in the first game ever played there. Clallam Bay whipped us. Yes, I played basketball, football too.

The museum opened in 1979. There was still an active air base where the Tribal Center is now. The tribal center was an old two story naval building next to where housing is now. The housing office was built in the early to mid 70’s. That’s about the time Diaht housing went up.

The Air Force left in 1988 and the center became a YWAM, Youth With a Mission site for a few years. When YWAM left they tried running the base as a resort; using the dorm rooms as overnight guest rooms. The Council renovated the “resort” and moved into it in the mid 90’s.

The Marina was completed in 1997. The offices and conference room came subsequent to that.

Now, that’s just the fifty years of change that I remember. The dates aren’t exact, but you get the picture.

When you leave this evening try to imagine this Neah Bay, compared to what you see now.

Then think about what it can be.

You will help shape the next fifty years of change in Neah Bay. Use your imagination, think bigly.

I urge you to Follow this quote as a guide:

Some men see things as they are, and say why. I dream of things that never were, and say why not.
Robert Kennedy


If you think you are too small to be effective, you have never been in bed with a mosquito.


Many of the quotes I used may be from people you haven’t heard of. I don’t know them all. I found them by Googling them. Google is a great tool:




It doesn’t matter that your dream came true if you spent your whole life sleeping.

Even if it was difficult with that mosquito flying around.

I close with
One last note:

Your best is yet to come!







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I was hired as the Community Planning & Economic Development Director on May 6, 2016.  I held the title Acting Director since April 25, 2012


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Sunday, January 8, 1978

Sunday, January 8, 1978


          Three weeks at home, the holiday’s spirit, my family and friends have done me wonders.  My sickness disappeared.  I had 4 TB skin tests taken, 3 came up negative and one came up semi-positive.  (Neah Jarrett died of TB) But Mom thought it was just nerves, and maybe she was right since most of my aches and pains disappeared while I relaxed at home.

The tribe is running out of funds so college students were not given Christmas vacation jobs.  I went to the center to inquire about a job anyway.  I talked to Mark, he told me to talk to Kibby.  The summer’s fireworks I mentioned earlier in this book centered on Kibby.  There was a bad scene, but it blew over and we remained friends.  She helped me a lot at Neah’s funeral.  She feels something special for me, for what reason I don’t know.  She hired me on the spot, though she wasn’t supposed to.  Ben told me about the situation of the college students, but said I could work ‘til the end of the week.  I declined and worked only those four hours all vacation

I went home on the weekend of December 1.  The high school played the Alumni on the 1st.  But I will talk about the basketball teams later.  Mom held a party for the staff and it was hilarious.  I studied not a word all weekend and finals were coming up.  I go through finals week with no snags.  On Wednesday Mel had a BB game with Landgren Christian.  I went up and saw her play.  She came back to the trailer with me; I took my last test Thursday morning.  The rest of the day was spent doing Christmas shopping and bowling.  We went home on Friday December 16th for Clallam’s Christmas Tournament.  More on that later.

The next week seemed to last forever for my nieces as they waited in anticipation for Christmas.  The big surprise came on Friday, December 23rd, Mom and Dad’s anniversary. The piano Dad bought for Mom was delivered Friday morning.  Mom was so surprised when she came home at lunchtime that she almost fell and she began to cry. It was a very touching scene to be witness to.  Dad, Mel and Maria were all present.  It was a great beginning to a fine holiday season.


The day before this scene, the house was full of students from Mom’s classes.  It was Mom’s 3rd annual holiday party for her students.  Over 100 students passed through our house.  They ate, drank, played pool and played the TV game.  A good time was had by all. 

On Christmas Eve the Parker family had a progressive dinner.  It all started at our house where hors d’oeuvres were served.  Before we left the family sang as Maria played the new piano.  We went to Auntie Joan’s for soup and she served one of the best chowders I have tasted.  Salad at Terry and Kitty’s followed.   It was the first time I had been in their trailer.  Its size and space amazed me.  But the best feature was the stereo system.  I don’t think I have heard any system that was better.  Kitty put on the Manhattan Transfer.  Mike danced briefly with Aunt Dorothy and with Patty.  Patty dance with Joan Carol Joan presented me with a difficult problem.  She has been messing around a lot and according to Dale has been chasing Henry.  Now Dale has enough trouble without having Joan add to them.  Having Joan around made me very uncomfortable.  Putting that aside it was an enjoyable evening.

The main course was potluck at Grandpas.  I skipped this to go see the Presbyterian’s Christmas program.  For me the high light of the evening was seeing Lawanda’s baby for the first time.  I had only learned that Lawanda was pregnant over the Thanksgiving Holiday.  This explained her decision to go to Tacoma for school.  When I returned on the 1st Mel told me about Lawanda’s baby’s birth.  I was shocked.  I figured she had a few more months to go before she was due.  I felt bad for Wanda for the trouble she got herself in.  Butch seems to care less, Wanda deserves better.  Unfortunately, Wanda still goes with Butch.  This really steams me; Wanda meant a lot to me.  I told her this through letters.  What I didn’t realize was the weight I put on and how it’s made me look.  She probably didn’t give two looks my way.  Mom was worried about Lois getting into the same trouble, but I found out Lois is on birth control pills.

Lawanda’s little baby girl, Nicole is a beautiful little thing with dark complected skin and a full head of long black hair. She’s a baby anyone could love.  Lawanda is still so young and at times may feel trapped by her daughter.  Some members of the family have yet to full accept their niece, but that will come in time.

Christmas was a happy, satisfying day.  After the Presbyterian program we went to Auntie Alice’s for dessert.  Oh, that was so good.  We went home to finish wrapping, went to the Community Hall for the Community Program.  We went home again, went to Ruth’s for Hot Fudge Sundaes.  We talked with the Buckingham’s, who are moving from California back to the Northwest.  We left there at 11:50 PM, went home to prepare for the next day’s festivities.

Christmas brought a little sadness as I thought of Ethel and Neah.  I saved the gift given to me by Big Jim for last and am writing this page with that gift.  The loss of these two people has hit so hard, and will for a long time to come.

Now let me turn to something that has grown close to my heart, and a person who is becoming a very close to me as friend.  I am talking about Neah Bay Basketball teams and “Coach,” Ron Johnson.  The first game was against the Alumni from the ‘70’s.

The opening game of the season on December 9, 1977 certainly was not a highlight for anyone except the JV’s.  The JV’s were led by Matt Kallappa and Barry Mack, two fine, gifted players, especially Matt, won their Alumni game handily.  Matt is going to be a player whose future should be something to look forward to.

The girls were beaten badly by their Alumni opponent.  Patti Ray, Rose Soeneke, Sally Thompson, Leanna Buckingham and Theresa Sawyer proved to be too much for the inexperienced high school team. Mel had a good personal game, but could not pull it off by herself.  Lois, Brenda Johnson, Margie Chartraw, Fran Parker and Willy Perry all very inexperienced and not overcoming Margie fouling out in the first quarter just could not stand up to the test.  The final score was 48 – 28 for the Alumni.  The alumni had built a 15 – 6 first quarter lead, getting 8 points from Sally.  It was 23 –14 at the half as Mel had 11 of the fourteen points.  The Alumni hit for 10 points and the girls could only get 4 points as the score stood at 33 – 18.  Free throws accounted for 8 of the girl’s 10 points in the final period, but the alumni struck for 15 points to put the game away.  Mel had scored 18 of the 28 points, Lois had 6, Marge had 2, and Brenda and France had 1 each.

The girls were just not prepared to play an experienced team such as the Alumni.  With only six players, and having Marge foul out early, made the members of the team play most of the game without rest.  This team is very inexperienced, lacking in self-confidence and real determination.  They are not sure of themselves and are hesitant in their play.  They don’t look like they would go far, but only time will tell.

The JV’s ran their Alumni opposition off the court recording a 54 – 39 win behind the 20 points of Barry and 18 points of Matt.  It was only 14 –12 in favor of the JV’s at the quarter, but the JV’s raced to a 35 – 16 halftime lead, allowing Billy Parker and Kevin Greene a basket each.  They were outscored 13 –19 in the third quarter and the fourth quarter were knotted at 10 each.  It was no contest after the half.  Paul Parker added 8, Mark Johnson had 6 and Ken Rhodes had 2.  Kevin Greene tallied 19 for the Alumni.  No one else could hit double figures.  This JV team looked very good, high hopes for them!

This brings us to the nights Varsity game.  The Alumni outscored Neah Bay in every quarter for an easy 87 – 49 win.  It was a balance effort on the part of the Alumni as they took a 15 –6 first quarter lead.  The lead was build to 42 –28 at the half.  Cubby Jimmicum hit 8 for the Reds, but Dobe countered with 11 points of his own.  The game went the way of the Alumni as they outscored the Varsity 20 –11 and 25 – 10 in the 3rd and 4th quarters respectively.  It really was not a matter of who played this game as who did not.  Gary LaChester, Mark Ray, Kimm Brown and Lester Moore all were not eligible.  Mark and Gary’s absence seemed critical and it seemed Lester and Kimm really were not really missed.  The Alumni controlled the boards, penetrate the defense and dominated the game at both ends.  Jeff Sawyer hit for 18 points; Ollie Kallappa 17, Bob Buckingham 15, Dobe Lyons 15, John Haupt 10, Dell Greene 7, and Jimmy Jarrett had 5.  This is a formidable group by any standards.  Ronnie tallied 13; Tate 10, Cubby 10, Danny 9, Mike Edwards 4 and Brian Gagnon had 3.  A balanced attack that would become very familiar.

This game was one sided as anyone who knew the players involved might have guessed.  The Alumni had a very good team that would be hard to beat in any league.  The varsity most likely suffered from first game jitters.  Though they lost, I told myself that the Varsity could be tough against other high schools.  I heard Kevin Greene tell Dick Lyons that the Varsity had “nothing.”  But, I knew with a little work they could go far.   One note, Jimmy Jarrett looked a little “chubby.”


The girls hit the road for their second game on December 14, 1977.  They played the Grace Academy, to be known later as the Landgren Lions.  The game was a laugh.  The place they were playing at was in Kent.  I met the team at Southcenter.  From there we drove to the gym.  At least that’s what they called it.  The facility was at some Elementary school the floor was tiled.  There were beams running cross width, very low making any high shot impossible.  The court was very small; there was not a scoreboard, cards with number sufficed.  They played six minute quarters straight through.  The whole thing was over in less than 45 minutes.  Neah Bay took a 6 – 4 first quarter lead on 4 points by Lois.  The score was 10 –8 at the half with Mel making all 4 points for Neah Bay.  NB outscored Landgren 6 – 2 in the third quarter and hung on in the fourth quarter being outscored 4 – 7, but winning the game 20 –17.  It was not an impressive effort to say the least Landgren should never have scored.  It should have been a basic slaughter job on the part of the NB girls.  It was all they could do to hang on.  This did nothing for my feeling that this team would struggle to win a few games.  They just have a long way to go.

The Varsity’s next game was at Clallam’s Christmas Tourney against Belmont, a team from Victoria.  The date was December 16, 1977, the beginning of a long winning streak.

This first victory was close and well earned.  It also offered some surprises for me.  First of all Mark and Lester were back.  I expected Mark to start, but to my surprise Les was starter also.  Not only did these two start, but also both turned in very good games.  Les was high point with 18, Mark with 15.  Les was impressive both offensively and defensively.  His shots from the corner kept us in the game many times.  Mark, teamed with Danny started to get control of the boards that kept Belmont from getting more than one shot.  Belmont built a 15 –13 first quarter lead and built that to 30 –27 at the half.  Belmont came out strong and built a 10-point lead early in the third quarter.  But behind Les’s 8 points and Marks 6 points, Neah Bay ultimately outscored Belmont 18 –14 and held a 45 –44 third quarter lead.

Neah Bay came out in the fourth quarter to build a 10-point lead of its own with less than 3 minutes to play.  The score was 56 –46, but even though Belmont scored 8 straight points, and missed a last second shot, Neah Bay never lost it’s cool, played smart and won 56 –54.  Belmont had some tall kids, but could only shoot 32% from the field and worse, 37.5% at the foul line, 6 –16. Belmont took part in a tourney PA was in a week before, PA with a new player and all-star for the tourney; Doug Manning had come in second.  I thought the team was tough, but we were better.  Neah Bay shot 26 – 63 for 41.2% and 4 –8 at the line Les had 18, Mark 15, Ron 13, Tate 4, Brian 4 and Dan 2.

I did not know I would keep score because Jean Johnson had done the Alumni game.  I did the girls game, and Ronnie did the JV game.  I walked up to Coach and asked about score-keeping.  Jean was sitting one seat about the scorer’s table and looked as if she was going to do the book.  But, Coach asked if I would and I gladly accepted.  We stayed after our win to watch Clallam whip Claremont and set-up a Neah Bay, Clallam Bay final.

Jim Reed, who replaced Mark Hottowe as JV coach took his team to Clallam to play the Bruins on December 17, 1977 the second day of the tourney.  The Bruins clobbered our boys 47 – 32.  Clallam jumped to a 12 – 4 lead and made it 28 – 16 at the half.  Matt had scored 10 of Neah Bay’s 12-second period points.  Neah Bay scored only 4 points to Clallam’s 15 in the third quarter and trailed 43 – 20 going into the final period.  Clallam hit 4 foul shots, but no field goals as Neah Bay outscored them 12 – 4 for the final 47 – 32 score.  Matt scored 15, Barry 11 and Paul Parker (Yak), Herm Ward and Bill Martin had 2 each.  After the game Ty Gill inquired about Matt, who was he?  Who did he belong to?  I told him and he told me Matt was going to be a good player, a prediction I strongly agree with.

This sets up the Clallam — Neah Bay final.  Because I had to be there early for the JV game, I had to sit through the Claremont, Belmont game that Belmont won.  During the game Jimmy Jarrett came over and sat by me and we chatted a bit throughout the game.  He and Michele were split again and he came to the game alone.  It was the first time we had made contact since Neah’s death.  We did not say much to each other, though I was trying to think of something to say all the while.  Jim chose to sit be me and I hoped that we could strike up a conversation and build upon a friendship.  Nothing much really came of it, though you might say it was a start.  I had written him before I came home for vacation and had gotten personal again as I usually do in my letters. I gave my feeling in writing about his Mom and Grandmother.  I asked for a picture of each, and offered my help in the business.  I was going to ask about that, but I thought that he might mention my offer sometime.  He didn’t and I did not get any pictures yet.  Jimmy seems to be in a bit of a fog with his life.  I would like to help, but I just don’t know how.  It came time for the game and I had to give up his company to go keep score.

What a game this turned out to be.  It was close, tense and offered enough excitement to last at least until the next game.  Neah bay won its first Christmas Tournament in something like 10 years.  The Red Devils jumped out on top and never lost the lead.  It was a tight game throughout even if Clallam never led at any point in the game.

The score was 12 – 8 by the end of the first quarter.  Each of the starting five scored a field goal, Ronnie, Dan, Tate, Lester and Mark mad four points.  Clallam got 4 points each from Tim Van Riper and a newcomer by the name of Brian Watling.  Neah Bay tacked on 7 points to their lead as they limited Clallam to 6 points all made by Tim Van Riper.  Clallam hit only 2 – 9 from the field and the foul line.  Neah Bay hit for 13 points in the second quarter with Mark hitting two field goals and 2 foul shots for 6 points.  Lester added 4 points, Tate 2 and Ron tallied a foul shot as Neah Bay led 25 – 14 at halftime.

Clallam came roaring back in the third quarter with 19 points.  They were 9 – 16 from the field and most of the scoring was due to Tim Van Riper’s 9 points.  Neah Bay lost 5 points on their lead to trail the Bruins into the quarter 19 –14.  Ron and Mark hit for 6 points each and Tate added 2.  The lead was now down to 6 points and stood at 39 – 33. Clallam went very cold in the fourth quarter hitting only 3 –14 from the field.  They added 3 points from the foul line for a total of 9 points in the quarter.  Neah Bay hit for only 8 points themselves and hung on for the 47 – 42 victory.

Clallam came very close in the final minutes.  Neah Bay kept itself together, did what they had to do and won the game.  Lester finally sealed the game with two lay-ups he made by driving through the middle of an excited Clallam defense.  Clallam got excited and blew many chances to get back in the game.  The Clallam coach received a technical in the third quarter and Mark made both foul shots.  Neah Bay kept its cool and did not give the game away as had happened in the past.  I was very excited about the team and the way it played.

Before the game I heard a referee, Hutchinson, tell Coach that he has never seen a better Neah Bay team play ball.  Coach told him a little about his program, the new eligibility rules and how he makes the team go silent while on the bus to make them think about the upcoming game, I also over heard that Mr. Van Riper predicted Neah Bay would win. Everything was going good for the Red Devil team.  It felt so good to be there to see them beat those almost hated Bruins.  Mike Parker was at the game and he too, was very impressed with what he saw.  Coach asked him what he thought about the game. Mike told him he thought he saw a team that was using its head and was thinking about what it was doing.  Furthermore, it was a team that did not lose its cool when the game got tight.  Coach said that that was the key.  The team as a whole never lost its cool, though an individual member may have here or there.

After the game there was a very happy Neah Bay crowd.  Both Mark and Lester received all-star awards and Neah Bay had a new 1st place trophy to put in the case.  Mom went to Mr. Van Riper to rub the victory in.  I went into the dressing room to give Coach the final stats that were as follows: Mark was high point with 16, Ron had 13, and Lester 10, Tate 6 and Danny 2, Kimm and Brian played but did not score.  Neah Bay was 20 – 55 for 36.4% from the field and 7 – 9 for 77% at the foul line.  Clallam was 18 – 49 for 36.7% from the field but hit a horrible 40% from the line shooting 6 – 15.  I heard Ronnie tell us who he elbowed Van Riper all night though Tim got 13 points.  We had Tate convinced he had fouled out the night before, smiles abounded and spirits were high.  It was a tough, well-deserved victory.  The Seattle Christian Christmas Tourney was next on the schedule.  Gary LaChester was on his way to Indian Heritage.  He will be missed, but his is missing the chance to play on a very good Red Devil team.

The Seattle Tourney started out rotten for me.  I was taking Mel, Lois and Brenda to the game on Thursday the day the game. The team had left the day before and had spent the night in Seattle at the Towne Motel. Mel and I had already decided that we would leave at 12-noon travel through Tacoma, and go to the Seattle Christian School for the 6:30 PM game.  At ten o’clock Dad decided he could tear the Vega down and give me the head to drop off as we went through PA.  We got the head off at 12:30 PM and did not leave until 1 PM I was very mad at the time.  We dropped the head off and Lois exchanges some clothes and we left PA at 3 PM.  I decided to try to make the 4:30 ferry, but missed it by only minutes.  We had to wait for the 5:10. We were in Seattle by 6 PM and had a half an hour to get to the game.  We would have made it if we would have take the right turn to Pacific Highway and then followed the directions we got from a Texaco attendant.  He told us to go up 28th, go through a stop sign, go up a hill and the school would be on our right.  We found a school all right, but it was blacked out, no cars were in sight and it didn’t have a building big enough to be a gym.  So I, in my infinite wisdom started hunting for it elsewhere.  Ten minutes later we were back at the same Texaco station getting gas and asking for directions again. Well, he gave me the same directions and I told him the school was blacked out.  He told me that Seattle Christian was down the road further and the “blacked out” school was boarded up.  When we went by it a second time I found he was right.  I had not noticed it the first time, Lois and Brenda was going to suggest going down the road further.

We finally got to the gym, walked in and found that the score was 18 home, 6 visitors and the first quarter had only minutes remaining to go in it.  We were playing Skykomish and thought Sky would be the home team and told myself, “Uh oh,” we are getting creamed.  The opposite was true.  As I sat down to catch up on the scoring I realized we were leading and that this game would be a real laugh-er.  Neah Bay had a lead of 23 – 10 at the quarter, mostly off of the 12 points by Ronnie.  Ronnie and Lester were having field days.  Either Ron would steal the ball and lay it in or Les would make a steal and pass off to Ron to lay it in.

The second quarter was quiet as both teams scored 14 points and Neah Bay was leading 37 – 24 at halftime.  Coach began playing his other players as Matt, Brian, Barry, Steve, Cubby, Dwayne and Dave Morton all saw playing time during the game. Coach Ron Johnson sent his starting five on the court for the third period and they exploded for 32 points, holding Sky to 12 as they built a 69 – 36 lead.  Mark mad 11 in this quarter with Lester, Ronnie and Brian getting 6 each, Tate tallied the final 3 points.  Neah Bay coasted in the fourth quarter as the bench spelled the first five.  They were outscored 24 – 20 but the final was an easy 89 – 60 win.  Everyone scored except David Morton.  Ron hid 24, Mark 19, Les 11, Tate 9, Dan 2, Steve Cunningham 2, Brian 6, Cubby and Dwayne with 2 each and Barry and Matt had 6 each. Sky had only six players, only one of which was any good.  Neah Bay was in the Championship game once again.

Mel and Brenda hinted about staying with the team at the Towne, Lois had run off with Stevie to stay at his Dad’s.  We stayed to watch the second game to see whom we would play for the championship the next night.  I sat down in the stands next to Julie and she told me that the Seattle Christian coach was once Ron’s coach.  I then understood how it came about that Neah Bay had been invited to Seattle Christian’s tourney.  Mel and Brenda came back into the gym after changing, (they were cheerleaders) and Mel told me about Lois leaving with Stevie and his Dad.  This made me a little mad, but I got over it right away.  Brenda went to Matt and sat with him while Mel sat among the crowd.  Tate told Mel to scoot over and sit by him.  This she did and it started a little relationship that lasted the weekend.  Mel and Tate were going together in the summer and fall, actually since last spring.  They broke up and Tate is going with Darlene Elvrum now.  During this weekend Mel and Tate were together, just like the old times.

I was telling everyone that Mel and I were going to stay at the trailer and the Johnson girls were to stay at their Aunts. Tate, Mel, Brenda, and Matt all started campaigning for the three of us to stay at the Towne.  Mel dropped a hint to Coach, telling him that we were going to the Towne.  He did not say no, but he did not make an invitation either.

The three of us got into the car after the game and I figured we could follow Coach to I-5 and head South to Tacoma from there.  I followed him all the way to I-5 and got on it heading toward Seattle.  I suggested that we go to Seattle so that we might take in a movie.  It was only 9:30 at the time and the girls readily agreed.  We got off on Seneca, still right behind Coach.  While driving through downtown Seattle, Coach hit a yellow light, went through and I stopped for the red light.  Coach got stuck in the group of cars waiting for the next light in front of us.  That light turned green before ours, but Coach sat in the middle of the street waiting for us so he could lead me to the Towne.  He didn’t know I could have made it on my own.

The three of us went to Coaches room.  While waiting outside his door, Ronnie stuck his head out of his door.  He was then shoved outside and the door was closed on him.  He was wearing only a towel. Someone came a long and grabbed for his towel but was caught and Coach went in and gave them a lecture I assume.  Brenda, Mel and I retired to Coaches room where I asked Julie about room rates.  Twenty dollars was pretty steep, but I was prepared to pay it, though I was still undecided and had said nothing to the girls about changing my mind.  We learned from Curt Ledford that Brian was sick.  As it turned out he had the 24-hour bug. Coach invited us to eat with the team at Shakey’s. So, we waited for everyone to shower.

I followed Coach to Shakey’s and the two of us beat Curt even though he had left before us.  Julie went around and got an idea of the kind of pizza everyone wanted.  She then ordered 8 large pizzas.  I sat down and talked with Coach and Julie, while everyone else played the games the place had. Coach had ordered a pizza for himself and I sat across from him as he ate it.  I felt uneasy as I sat there and watched him eat that pizza by himself.

When the pizzas finally came I ate only one piece, being self-conscious about my weight.  Julie kept trying to get me to have more but I politely declined.  Coach told her that I was bashful.  To a certain extent he is absolutely right.  I still feel uncomfortable among this group of young men.  My problem is really quite simple.  I stand in awe of their athletic ability.  I enjoy watching them in action, the teamwork, and the art of the sport they are taking part in.  Their ability is 3 times anything I ever did.  They work together as a team better than we did.  This year they have a very good chance to make it to the tournament in Spokane.  But, I’d still be watching them even if they didn’t have a chance to make it to the league tourney that takes 4 of the 5 teams.

There are many reasons why I try to attend as many games as possible. First of all there is my sister Melonee.  She is a cheerleader and plays basketball and runs track. I don’t like to miss anything that she participates in.  I am closer to her then either Lynn or Dale and I hold a special place in my heart for her.  My second reason is the players themselves.  I’ve known most of them for years now and it has become interesting to watch them go through what I went through only a few years ago.  Sharing in their experience now is a selfish way for me to re-live the memories I have for my participation in high school sports.  A third reason is the coach, Ron Johnson, or Coach as he is known to everyone, is a man who I have grown to respect a lot.  He had become a friend when I needed on most.  Neah Jarrett left a large void in my life when she died. Coach has helped fill that void, one that will never be filled.  Neah had a passion for sports and gladly supported many sports programs.  In this tradition, as she did, I will give my time and energy to help in any way I can.

Everyone had a good time; everyone got their fill of pizza, even leaving a pizza and a half to bring back to Brian.  Mel sat with Tate, Brenda and Matt all the while we were there, while I sat with Coach, Julie & Curt Ledford.  It was an enjoyable evening, though it was now about 11:45 or later. I was tired, the girls wanted to stay and I decided we would.  I didn’t say anything as Tate and Matt got into the car.  We followed Coach, until we stalled and the car died.  We pulled over, I restarted the car and we got to the Towne minutes after everyone else.  As we all got out Mel discovered that she had left her purse at Shakey’s.  I informed Coach of this discovery and Curt offered to take Mel back to Shakey’s to retrieve it.  Brenda went with her.  While they were gone I decided to get a room.  Julie told me to get one on their floor and just have them put it on Coaches bill.  I went downstairs, picked up a key and found out we were across the hall from Coach.

I went back into Coaches room took out a $20 and asked who I give it to. Coach said, “Keep it.”  I asked how it would get paid for, how much we should kick in.  He said, “Just rip us off.” Julie said that they were going to ask Shirley Johnson for some of the money they were earning off of the pinball machines at the teen center.  If they didn’t get any then I could pay them later.  Mel and Brenda finally came back and I gave them the good news.  They were happy to say the least.

The girls didn’t get to see much of the boys that night.  When they left to get Mel’s purse it was 5 minutes to 12.  The players had a 12 o’clock curfew and many of them did not know we spent the night.  Most of them were up until the wee hours of the morning, climbing along the ledge from one window to another.  We were undisturbed and spent a peaceful night.

We started getting up in the morning at about 9:30 AM.  We were all ready by 10:30 when Ronnie and Lyda dropped into the room and asked if we were going to the movie, “Close Encounters of the Third Kind.” It was at the King across the street.  We said sure and were told to run our money to Joey Delgado who was standing in line for everyone else.  I brought the room key to the front desk as I was expecting to go home after the game.  Mel and Brenda went over to the line, but by the time they got over there Joey had bought his tickets and was standing in line waiting to go inside.  Brenda and Mel were told to get in line with Lester.  We bought our tickets and cut into line with Mark, Ron, Lyda, Tate, Joey, Dwayne and Lester.  It was bitterly cold outside and a stiff wind was blowing. When we finally got inside it was a relief.  Ronnie, Lyda, Mark, Les, Dwayne and Joey all sat in a row and Tate sat near the end.  Mel, Brenda and I sat a row back, but a section over.  Mel wanted to go sit with Tate, but could not get the nerve.  I finally got up and we all went over to sit with Tate.  The show was all right, but it wasn’t what I expected.  The plot was thin, but the special effects were great.

Mel, Brenda and I went shopping downtown for Mom’s birthday.  We finally ate around 3:00 PM, with poor Brenda starving.  We got what we could and went back to the Towne and waited there until it was time to go to the game.  As we were leaving for the game, Matt got into the car and was sitting in the back seat with Brenda.  Tate was on his way over and Brenda told Mel, “I s your heart beating hard?”  Tate got over the car, leaned through the opened doors open windows and told Matt he had to ride with them.  Matt got out and left and I told Brenda “Did your heart quit beating hard?”

We got to the gym and watched Landgren Lions beat Skykomish.  We were going to play them the following weekend.  Landgren won, and it was time for our game.  Before the game, Russ Lance said a few words about Coach and how he once coached many of the team’s fathers.  As a matter of fact Mrs. Lance had bought a photo of the ’57 BB team, very interesting.

Neah Bay really had no problem winning the game.  Neah Bay jumped out to a 14 – 8 first quarter lead.  Mark and Ron hid 3 field goals each while Tate added 1.  Neah Bay hit 7 – 16 while holding Seattle Christian to only 4 – 14. The Reds increased the lead by 8 points as the outscored SC 18 – 10.  Les canned 6 points, Mark hit for 6 more. Tate added four and Dan scored 2, Ron failed to score.  SC was hitting only 4 -–18 while Neah Bay hit 8 –21.  Neah Bay led 45 – 28 after three-quarters.  The bench played many minutes and our bench was stronger.  Neah Bay outscored SC 22 – 15 in the fourth quarter.  Mark was high with 18, followed by 14 for Ronnie, 12 for Tate, 10 for Lester, 5 for Danny, and 4 each for Brian and Barry.  Neah Bay hit on 30 –75 from the field for 40% and 7 –13 at the line for 53.8%.  Seattle Christian was only 18 – 70 for only 25.7% and 7 – 15 from the line for only 46.6%.

Neah Bay had captured its second Christmas Tournament and had a four game winning streak.  At this point Neah Bay is shooting 40.7% with 116 – 285 from the field.  At the line NB is 28 – 54 for 51.8%.  Mark Ray was leading the team with a 17-point average with 68 pts.  in 4 games, while Ronnie had 77 points in 5 games for a 15.4 average.

The whole team was pretty well on a high note.  I wasn’t feeling well, it was cold outside and I really didn’t want to make the drive home that night.  Brenda and Mel certainly didn’t want to go home.  Before we left for the game Julie had told me she didn’t want us to drive home because she didn’t want to worry about us.  The matter was settled when Coach invited us to spend another night with the team and help them celebrate.  I of course, accepted on the spot and the girls were overjoyed.

Matt and Tate rode home with Mel and Brenda and I was there to chauffeur.  We checked in and were in a room with two twin beds across the hall from Lester and Mark among others.  Mel slept in a sleeping bag on the floor while Brenda and I claimed a bed each.  Seattle Christian did not have any shower facilities, so the team showered at the motel.  There were many players running around clad only in their basketball trunks as they waited for the showers to come free.  Tate claimed the shower in our room, but was the only one who used it.  I had Mel call home and when she did Brian got on the phone and chatted with Mom.  Brian is undoubtedly one of Mom’s favorite students.

Things were finally calming down when Brenda came running in our room laughing her head off. Matt followed at a slower pace and told us what was going on.  Matt and Brenda were sitting on a bed in Matt’s room when Barry walked out of the bathroom drying his hair and wearing nothing else.  Brenda saw the whole show before darting out of the room.  Barry instantly covered up, but it was too late.

Both Mel and Brenda got their eyes full when they opened the door to our room and across the hall stood Mark with nothing more than a towel. The girls were having a time of it all right.  Finally all were showered and all were dressed and all took off for Ivar’s for dinner.  Once again Tate and Matt were our company.  On the drive down Tate asked someone to point out a hooker to him, because, “I’ve never seen one.”  We just told him that he could take his pick among any of the girls walking down the sidewalk.

Our car arrived at Ivar’s last. As we walked inside we found the rest of the team standing in the foyer.  We finally were seated and thing got a bit confused as everyone tried to find a place to sit. Mel sat to my right at the end of the table.  Keith Ledford was to my left and his Dad next to him.  Les sat across from Mel, Lyda across from me and Ronnie to Lyda’s right, with Danny next to Ronnie.

I could tell Les and Mel were uncomfortable, and I know I was.  Lyda, never one to be uncomfortable calmed us all down a bit.  She found a mask that Ivar’s gives to its children guests. She put it on and everyone had a good laugh.  She wanted someone else to put it on so she could see what it looked like.  Les and Mel refused so all eyes turned on me. Lyda egged me on; Mel put an elbow into my side as she urged me to put the mask on.  Finally, I put it up to my face for a few seconds.  Lyda was not satisfied.  She wanted me to put it back on and blink my eyes or something. I complied and roused a chuckle out of Lyda, Mel and Lester.

The ice was broken somewhat, and what little tension existed was eased.  Ronnie demonstrated his ability to hang a spoon on his nose.  I picked on Melonee like I usually do, and this seemed to amuse both Lyda and Lester.  Mel was somewhat embarrassed, but she went on the offensive every now and then.  I would say something to Mel, Les would be listening, I would look at him and he would turn away smiling.  While Mel and I were not joking around with each other, Mel and Les found time to have small conversations now and then.  This to Mel was nothing less than amazing.  Mel has had a thing for Lester for years now.  But, Les is a very quiet, non-talkative type.  Mel’s interest was not returned by Les.  I came home once, was talking to Mel and she told me she and Les have become “kinda friends.”  We used to sing to Mel the song, “More, More, More by Abba and use to tell she really liked someone, more or less, Lester Moore.

Way back when Robin Snyder was a cheerleader she told me she liked, really liked a player from Quilcene.  His name was Steve Handly and she really had a crush on him.  After a game in Quilcene I walked out of the locker room and ran into Robin.  I told her that I had run into this Steve Handly guy and he told me to tell her that he liked her.  This put her on cloud nine.  I, of course, had not run into Steve Handly and in fact have never talked to him in my life.  But, my match making worked.  I went to the same with Mel and Les.  Soon Mel admitted a liking for Les, but there was no response from Les at any time.  No matter, the seed had been planted.

That’s one reason for an interest in Les.  The second is Kibby’s attachment to him.  Kib sees Les as one of her one children. Kib talks of him often at work.  Les is slight of build, small in height, dirty blond, curly hair and has a determination almost unmatched.  He is a pleasure to watch; though we are not very friendly off court.  I was surprised that Les was starting for the varsity, but after watching him play I knew he would offer some exciting basketball.

Mel was surprised about how much Les talked to her.  Later she told me that Les has never seen the side of us that he saw that night.  I thought that this was probably true.  Maybe a little friendship might come out of it.  Mel was to see more of Les later that night.

Dinner ended and we all packed up to go back to the Towne.  Tate and Matt were once again our passengers.  The streets were empty by this time.  Tate asked where all the hookers were.  I told him they were probably working.  He said, “You mean they have night jobs?”  I told him no, but they were doing their job.  It took awhile for him to catch on, but when he did he gave out a long “ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!”

Tate and Matt stayed in the room until about 1 AM.  I finally got into bed, while Brenda and Mel hung around the door.  Some of the players were playing knock, knock, so Mel and Brenda were going to be ready for the next knock, knocker.  Mel was looking through the peephole when she spotted the door opposite ours open.  Slowly, Lester came out the door and came to our door.  Just as he got ready to knock on the door, Mel and Brenda flew open the door and surprised Lester, who happened to be clad only in his underwear.  Like I said above Mel was to see a lot more of Les.

Coach came around to quiet things down.  He asked the girls if I could take someone home the next day.  I agreed and so Barry and Matt were to ride home with us.  Since Tate was going with Darlene, Coach didn’t think it was a good idea to have him ride with us.

Matt, Barry and Brenda rode in the back, with Mel and me in front.  I tried to get them to put someone in front, but they refused.  We were to drop Matt at Aggie’s to meet his Dad, or over at Swain’s. We checked at Aggie’s and Matt’s family was not there.  We dropped him off at Swain’s, went up to Payless, back downtown and finally back to Swain’s to see if Matt was still there.  He was, I couldn’t leave him there so we took him home.  I never found out what happened, but the weekend was over and it came time to look forward to the next game.

Neah Bay’s next game was against Indian Heritage on Jan. 3, 1978.  This was the day after the Washington Huskies great victory over the Michigan Wolverines in the 1978 Rose bowl.  What a game!

The heritage game was going to be a strange one indeed.  Gary LaChester was suiting up for Heritage, with the game at home; Gary would be playing on his home court in the wrong uniform.  Neah Bay jumped to a 17 – 15 first quarter lead.  I.H. connected on 6 – 16 shots from the field, while Neah Bay hit on only 7 – 25.  Ronnie made 7 pts, Tate had 4, and Dan, Mark and Les had 2 each.  Stan Markishtum had 8 pts for I.H. and Gary had only 2 pts.

Neah Bay exploded for 25 pts. In the second quarter, but I.H. scored 26 and Neah Bay’s lead was only 42 – 41 at halftime.  Mike Edwards scored 8 pts. To lead Neah Bay, Gary and Stan scored 8 each to lead the Eagles.  Neah Bay outscored I.H. 20 – 10 in the third quarter.  Neah Bay was led by Mark’s 7 pts followed by Les’s 6 pts.  Neah‘s defense held Gary to 4 pts. and Stan to only 2.

The game ended with Neah Bay on top 83 – 69.  A 21 – 18 4th quarter didn’t hurt.  Ronnie’s 9 pts. led the way for the Red devils.  Stan scored 8 pts. Before he fouled out.  Gary managed only 3 pts. On the nigh Ronnie had 21, Mark 15, Mike Edwards 12, Les 11, Tate 10, Dan 7, Brian 4, Matt 2 and Kimm 1.  Stan scored 26 for the Eagles and Gary collected 17.  Neah Bay was 35 – 90 for 38.9% from the field and 13 – 29 for 44.8% from the line.  Heritage was 27 – 80, 33.7% and 15 – 30, 50%.  Both Stan and Randy received a technical.

The game was close most of the time and Ron, Dan, and Tate lasted through the game with 4 fouls.  Heritage wasn’t sharp, except Stan’s shooting.  Five in a row for NB, 5 – 1.

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Thursday, December 1, 1977

Thursday, December 1, 1977


          In two weeks from today I shall be on my way home for Christmas vacation.  I have wanted to be home all this time, but school has prevented this.  I started to get sick at or about the 12th or 13th.  I haven’t felt completely well any day since then.  I was told I had bronchitis and it hasn’t left yet.  I am really looking forward to going home.  Being here alone is hard, especially right now.  The Thanksgiving break did me wonders.  Talking, laughing, and being around my family felt so good.

Our family left for Seattle on Friday the 25th.  Mel and I came to the trailer where we watched USC beat UCLA 31 –29 (on a last second field goal) and put the Washington Huskies into the Rose Bowl.  What a great start for the weekend!  Later that night I took Mel to see Oh God! Which she enjoyed very much.

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Sunday, November 13, 1977

On Monday, November 7, 1977 a very close friend of mine died in Port Angeles at about 4:30 AM.  Neah Jarrett died at the age of 43.  She had pneumonia, lung problems, and a bad heart.  Steve Schenck told me that when they got her to the hospital they thought the worst of it was over.  She got to the hospital Sunday afternoon.  It was quite a shock when she died so suddenly.

I had come home on Friday, November 4, for the High School’s last football game of the season.  This would be Ronnie’s, Tate’s, Gary and Kimm’s last football game.  Our boys took a 20 – 0 lead at halftime.  But, Joyce came back to win the game 30 –20 in a very disappointing game.  It was the homecoming game so I went to the dance.  The dance was rather rowdy, and the band was terrible.  Couples were changing partners like crazy.  I found out that night that a friend had gotten his girl friend pregnant.  She had got an abortion against his wishes.  The two had split up over it.  Jim Jarrett and Michele are separated.  Jim was at the dance with Joi Venske.  Michele was in a car accident that night with Ollie Kallappa, Patti Martin in Jim’s red Ventura, the car was a total wreck, but everyone got out of it okay.

For the first time in years, after observing the people at that dance, they were drunk, high or both, for the first time in years I thought Neah Bay just may not be the place for me to live.

Saturday was slow, and I thought I might visit the Jarretts.  I didn’t, and I now so wish I did.  We watched the Sonics get bombed in Portland.  On Sunday we watched Oakland bomb the Seahawks.  Our losses were piling up, but the most painful loss was yet to come.  After the game we had a family dinner for Lynn.  Monday was her birthday.  After we ate I worked on homework, while Dad changed the tires on the Maverick.  Time was going by fast, I was tired and decided to stay and leave the next day.

I woke up early and listened to the rest of the family get ready for the day’s activities.  The phone rang and Mom answered it.  I heard her say, “Oh really!” in a very distressing tone.  I thought something was wrong, I thought about Neah, I closed my eyes to try to wipe the feeling away.  Dad came in the room and told me about Neah.  He left and I began to cry.  Mom came in before when went to school When she left I cried myself back to sleep.

When I woke up I went into the living room to watch TV.  I thought about Jim, Jimmy, Raye, Helen and the rest of the family.  My heart ached, as it down now.  I hurt all over, and I cried, as I am now.  I then concentrated on the TV and pulled myself together.  Sharon Charles came by to see if I was all right.  I assured her I was and she left.  I felt so helpless, so all alone, oh how I hurt.

I pulled myself together so I gave an appearance of being all right when Mom and Mel came home for lunch.  Mom told me we would visit the Jarrett’s when she came home from school.  I wasn’t sure I was up to it, but I knew I had to see the family.

I drove by the Jarrett’s house when I went to see Aunt Dorothy. Seeing the family’s cars gathered together at Neah’s home, the reality had shown through, the hurt stabbed deeper.

Mom came home and told me the family had gone to PA.  She called Jim Cooke and he told Mom that Neah wanted only a small family service in PA and had asked to be cremated.  The thought of cremation turned my stomach, but, since it was her wish, well, what could I say?  Another thought struck me, Jim said it was to be a family service, might I be left out?  This thought scared me, not seeing Neah again, ever.  My fears were relieved when Mom, Jim and I visited Big Jim at his house.  He told us of Neah’s wishes and that the family had decided to follow them.  But Jim told me that the only two people who would be exceptions for the family services were Bob Buckingham and I.  Helen told me that they would meet me there.  I shook hands with Jim; hugged Helen and we left.

I decided to stay the week, because I didn’t want to be alone. I was scared and hurt, and sorry and I wanted so much to see Neah again. To hear her voice, to hug her, to tell her how much I really loved her. To let her know I prayed for her as I pray for the family now, to tell her I miss her, but it all seemed so useless, so unreal, but the pain was so real.  I comforted myself with the thought that Neah was once again with Ethel.  We miss them both, oh so dearly.

My thoughts drifted over my many memories of Neah.  The volleyball nights, the community league, our many talks after these activities at the gym or in her car.  The many trips, her love for sports her family took part in, especially Jimmy’s participation.  She talked about Jimmy often.  Her family was so close and she was a main reason for this.  The love between family members, their closeness, was all so beautiful.  – And because of Neah, I was brought into this family. I cherished her friendship.  We talked many, many times.  We had dinner together, we saw movies together, and she was so good to me.  She helped me in so many ways.  I love her so much; she was a very, very special friend.  The day will come when we will meet again; I look forward to that day.  I will be ready.

Thursday was the day of the service.  I rode into Port Angeles with Bob and Betsy.  I walked into the funeral home and saw Jim, Steve, Raye, and the Dannels.  I saw all the flowers and Neah’s casket.  I was sick, sad, the pain, the hurt, the sorrow.  I sat down by myself, alone, I felt so alone.  The service was reassuring, beautiful. It came time to see Neah for the last time.  Most of the Claplanhoo family had walked by already, Helen went up and broke, and Moe was sitting in my aisle, but wouldn’t go forward.  I stepped by him and walked forward to where Neah lay. She looked so good, at peace, beautiful in her eternal rest.  Seeing her brought me to tears, Kibby came to me, supported me and walked me away as I took my last look.  I sat down and continued crying, but the tears couldn’t wash the pain away.  I sat, out of sight from where Neah lay.  I didn’t see Jim, Jimmy or Raye go forward, but I heard Jim break.  I felt so helpless; I wanted to help him, but how?  Jimmy and Raye looked very good.  I had not seen either of them all week.  My heart cried out to them.  Their pain was greater than mine was.

       We all left for a gathering at Haguewoods.  We ate together and Nora sang for us as he had at the service.  After we ate members of the group spoke and finally members of the family spoke.  This custom helped a lot, eating together, sharing our thoughts, it all helped.  Kibby was so good to me; she helped me so much.

Finally, it ended; everyone went through to shake hands with the family.  I hugged Helen, gave her my support.  She told me, “It’s up to me to carry on Neah’s work; I’ll need your help.”  I told her anytime, anything and went to see Jim, Jimmy and Raye.  Jim’s niece was sitting with him.  He introduced me to her as Neah’s very special friend.  I was glad to hear those words they helped.  I shook his hand, Jimmy’s hand and hugged Raye.  Jimmy had an expression on his face that was very painful.  You could see his hurt.  I walked away.  Steve said a few words to me, but I felt alone, like I was no longer part of the family.  My closest links, Neah and Ethel are gone.  I don’t think they’d want me to stay away from their family.  I will try to stay as close as I can.

Neah, I loved you.  I miss you.  The hurt is deep.  I will remember you always.  I will stay close to your family always.  That’s what you would have wanted.  Your family is mine.  I will love them as much as I loved you.  Neah, I loved you so much.  Watch over us, you will remain in my heart forever. Neah, I love you, I love you Neah.

I rode home with Moe.

Today my heart still aches.  They say time heal all wounds.  My wound is large the pain runs deep.  It’s hard to believe she’s gone.  I have Jimmy’s picture in front of me.  She gave me this picture for Christmas a few years ago.  I can see Neah in Jimmy’s face.  The love for her son and daughter was great.  They will miss her so, as I will.  My heart, my prayers, my thought are with and for her family.  How can the pain ever heal?  By remembering her with love and through the gracious memories she leaves with us.  She meant so much to me, so much.  She helped me grow in many ways in a difficult time in my life.

The Community League, High School Sports, the Whalers, her family, I, just won’t be the same without her.  She gave so much to her family, to her community, to me.  We must pick up where she left off.  Her burden was heavy. No one could replace her.  It will take all of us to continue her work.  Neah is gone; no it’s not true.  But it is true, I saw her, thank God she looked so well.  I hope she did not have too much pain.  I pray to God, I must believe, to be comforted with the thought that she is with Ethel again.  Some day we will be together again, all of us, so that it may be like the old times.

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